Story time!
I had a client who did a tarot card reading and coaching session. We ended up discussing their marriage and the tension within it. When I suggested ways a date can look, they couldn’t wrap their mind around dates don’t need to be elaborate.
They kept saying “we don’t have money”, or “dates aren’t in the budget.” Then it turned into “We don’t have money to go to counseling together. It’s too expensive.”
So, in true Amanda fashion, I dropped a truth bomb.
“Didn’t you tell me before this session started that you bought a $100 bottle of liquor from the Warehouse store?”
Pure shock was on their face. They couldn’t believe I had called them out on it.
The truth is they were making excuses. Nothing was expensive too them. They were choosing to not invest their money, or time for that matter, in each other. Trying to find ways to avoid being together.
Planning out intentional dates (elaborate and simple) was our plan.
And to be intentional about special time together is what needed to be the motive behind the plan.
When we become intentional about our actions, the excuses fall away.
In relationships, health, work, money, spirituality, and mentality it all applies. When you take a specific action towards your goal, stay in that mindset, and work towards FEELING joy, then excuses aren’t even around.
Remember expensive is and excuse.